Life changes fast. Life changes in the instant. You sit down to dinner and life as you know it ends. The question of self-pity... Those were the first words Joan Didion wrote after her husband died. Those words are also the first words to start her book, The Year Of Magical Thinking. A book she wrote after her husband died after 40 years of marriage to deal with her loss and grief. I am one of those fortunate who have never lost someone that close but still I could really appreciate the book cause it also or at least thats how I experienced it, deals with acceptance and how to move on and start again. Even if you as I haven't lost someone so close I think it is a fantastic read, also to understand how someone who deals with such terrible loss may feel. Life do change in the instant.